When you are in love, you are willing and able to do whatever your loved one needs. You want to give them everything they want. You want to be there for them no matter what.
You may just be setting yourself up for a one sided affair. At the beginning, you may just see yourself as a giving partner. But as time goes on, you will find that you are doing all of the giving while your love is doing all of the taking.
Not every romance starts out as one sided. Sometimes they turn out the way because one person is still in love but the other one doesn’t feel the same.
It is also possible that you are involved with a narcissist. If you are beginning to have the feeling that you are the only one making any effort, you may need consider the whole relationships before your self-esteem and dignity are affected.
If your needs aren’t being met and you spend most of your time putting in all of the work and effort and your partner isn’t spending any time at all, you will soon be feeling left out and alone.
Here are a few things to look out for:
- You start most of the conversations. You always call first, you do all of the planning and sometimes when you haven’t reached out your partner doesn’t bother to check on you.
- You always seem to be working around their schedule. No matter what the two of you have going on, you are always willing to adjust your plans to make sure they will be accommodated. If they are not willing to literally meet you halfway, you may be in a one sided relationship.
- You have to be super careful about what you say or what you do. If you do whatever you can to keep them from blowing up or freaking out. If you are spending more time avoiding conversation than you are actually talking, you are eventually going to become resentful which will build more problems in the future.
Studies show that people who are happy with their life in general tend to have better relationships. If you are starting to feel bad about your romantic situation, your partner may have had these feelings all the while. If you find that you are not happy anywhere, it may be coming from your overall relationship.
Another sign that you are in this relationship by yourself is your partner not sharing with you. If you reach out to them to share a moment and they brush you aside, they are not as invested as you are.
If you find that you are constantly apologizing for things that are not your fault or are merely independent decisions, then you are not true partners. You shouldn’t have to compromise or apologize for who you are.
You find yourself explaining your partner’s behavior or making excuses for them. What you have gotten used to, they may seem shocked or upset. Constantly making apologizing for them is a red flag.
Your partner does not think about you by doing little favors for you. When was the last time they took you by surprise by doing something small, but sweet for you?
Do you have to pretend to be something you’re not just to keep their attention? If someone truly loves you, they will love all of you.
You can’t keep up the pretense for your whole life. If they do not love who you are, it’s time to move on.