Strong feelings can show up quickly when you meet someone you like. You can enjoy that excitement and give yourself time to learn how the two of you get along in everyday situations.
Make one plan at a time
Choose a date that fits your week. You can look forward to seeing the person without deciding what the relationship will become. Keep a plan with friends or time for an activity you enjoy on your own.
Talk about how often you want to be in touch
If messages are taking up more of your day than you want, say when you’re available. “I like hearing from you. During work I usually check my phone at lunch.” Both of you can say what works for you.
Notice what the person does over time
Look at whether they follow through, respect your time and handle a changed plan with care. If you value a friend’s perspective, talk about what you’ve observed and how you feel. Give the new person room to share their own story.
Ask before you make bigger commitments
When you’re ready to talk about exclusivity, future plans or meeting family, ask directly. Make room for different answers. Decide what pace you can enjoy and keep that choice open as you learn more.